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Splitting a parent's care between siblings goes wrong in a predictable way: the money gets counted and the hours do not. Whoever lives nearest ends up driving to appointments, sitting in waiting rooms and doing the admin, while the receipts everyone can see belong to somebody else. This logs both and lets you compare several user-selected allocation scenarios. The arithmetic is a discussion aid, not a finding about what anyone fairly or legally owes. Everything stays on this device: no account, no login, nothing sent anywhere.
Add everyone who contributes anything — money, time, or both. Income is only used if you pick the income-weighted basis below, and it never leaves this device.
Nobody added yet. Start with yourself.
The same recorded contributions look different under different assumptions. Switching the scenario does not decide which assumption is fair, enforceable or appropriate.
Money and hours go in the same place. Log hours the same week you spend them — nobody reconstructs a Tuesday afternoon three months later.
Money and any hour-value you chose, compared with the selected allocation scenario. A positive difference means recorded contributions exceed that scenario amount; it does not create a debt or reimbursement right.
Add a person and one contribution to see the split.
Recorded contribution values per month, stacked by person. The chart summarizes this log only and does not determine responsibility for future care costs.
The chart appears once you have contributions logged in two or more months.
Ask five siblings what a parent's care costs and you will get five numbers, all of them wrong in the same direction. Receipts are visible. Bank transfers are visible. The Thursday morning spent on hold with an insurer, the 40-minute drive each way, the afternoon taken unpaid to sit in a waiting room — none of that leaves a trace, so none of it gets counted. The sibling doing it knows exactly what it costs them. Everyone else genuinely does not.
That asymmetry is why these conversations curdle. The nearest sibling isn't asking for money so much as asking to be believed, and there is nothing to point at. Putting hours in the same ledger as receipts, at a stated rate, converts an unfalsifiable grievance into a line item. It stops being about who cares more.
Decide how you are splitting before you look at what anyone has spent. The moment the totals are visible, whichever basis favours you starts to feel like the principled one, and everybody notices. Agreeing the rule first — equal, income-weighted, or a custom split you have talked through — takes the sting out of the arithmetic that follows.
Equal, income-weighted and custom splits answer different hypothetical questions. None is automatically fairer. Use them to compare assumptions, and document any real family agreement separately. If money or compensation has legal, tax or benefits consequences, get advice appropriate to the situation.
There is no universal hourly value for unpaid family care. If the family wants a replacement-cost scenario, enter a current local rate from a source relevant to the type of service being compared. That remains a planning assumption, not a wage, reimbursement right or tax value.
Some families set it deliberately low, as a gesture rather than a wage. That is fine. The point of crediting hours is not to invoice anyone; it is to make sure the person doing the driving appears in the ledger at all.
Print the record and bring it to a conversation. Emailing a spreadsheet of what your siblings owe you is a different act entirely, and it reliably lands as an accusation no matter how the covering message is worded. A monthly or quarterly review, with the totals visible to everyone at the same moment, keeps this in the category of shared logistics rather than personal grievance.
If the balance is badly lopsided, the useful question is rarely how to settle up in cash. More often it is what to buy with the money — paid respite, a cleaner, a sitting service — so that the sibling carrying the hours gets time back instead of a transfer.
Most families that split care costs fairly do count them, because the sibling doing the hands-on care is usually the one spending the most and earning the least. This tool lets you set an hourly value and then treats logged hours as a contribution alongside money spent, so the two are visible in the same column instead of being argued about separately.
Not always. Equal splitting is the simplest to agree on, but siblings rarely earn the same amount, and the one living nearest usually absorbs far more unpaid time. This tool offers three bases — equal shares, shares weighted by income, or custom percentages you set yourselves — so you can see the same contributions measured three ways before deciding.
No. There is no account and no email address. Everything you enter is saved only in this browser on this device, and nothing is uploaded. To share the record you export a backup file, download the standalone HTML, or print it — all three keep the data in your hands.